I rarely have time on Thanksgiving to spend time putting together a meaningful post. It is a busy day in our home. We will wake having a breakfast of sausage rolls and breakfast strata, while watching the parade Then we set out snacks-clam dip and lots of pickles and olives-and play board games. We end the day with a big turkey dinner. We’ve spent the last couple of days baking and cooking to get ready, so that we can all relax and enjoy the day.
So I thought I would take a moment, tonight, to reflect I have a lot to be thankful about this year. I have a wonderful, healthy family. I’ve spent time with dear friends in beautiful places and taught at some truly inspiring conferences. I’ve had new opportunities arise and made new friends. I graduated from college-something I was beginning to think I wouldn’t get around to.
Of course nothing is perfect. Life is messy. There are tears, struggles and blow-ups, but sometimes this is the only path to healing. They can be a blessing too, even though that can be hard to see when you are in the thick of it. I am most thankful that life seems to be progressing down that path for my family, right now.
I’d like to think that recent events in the country represent those types of struggles. Only by committing ourselves to unified goal and having compassionate discussions with people whom we disagree with, can we move towards a better society. Despite the narrative the media feeds us, I believe that most people are inherently decent. That doesn’t always mean they do the right thing, but I believe that very few people truly set out to harm other people.
If you listen to a person’s words, but only focus on trying to understand the feelings that are creating their narrative, you begin to see them in a whole different light. You feel more compassion toward them. Similarly, when you stop and think about the emotions that motivate you, you can be more patient with yourself. It is a useful exercise. If you’ve never tried it, have a go at it.
I guess I will leave this hoping that all of you experience today in a way that is meaningful to you. I am thankful to have this chance to connect with you.